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Shrink Rap: Proud

July 8, 2019

by Sarah Hunter, LCSW

This article is part of a series that will help readers understand the purpose of twelve basic human emotions: guilt/shame, pride, compassion, gratitude, disgust, joy, fear, curiosity, anger, love, sadness, and connection.

Feeling Proud

Humans are born with the instinct to feel good about learning and doing good things. The good feeling we get when we accomplish a goal, learn something new, or act in line with our values is called proud. Because human behavior is shaped by internal and external rewards and punishments, it is essential to make room for proud feelings.

For most young children, feeling proud comes quite naturally. Imagine a baby taking her first steps into the welcoming arms of a parent. The joy and excitement from that monumental accomplishment is felt on a visceral level by everyone watching. Similarly, the sense of accomplishment that comes from successfully completing a task such as using the bathroom, although quite unremarkable for adults, is exciting for children. In the early years, bathroom success is celebrated with cheers, high fives, treats and privileges. Of course, when mastery occurs, the fanfare ends. It is then reserved for a time when the child accomplishes something that is more challenging such as learning to talk, read, write, tell the truth, be a good friend, play a sport, and the list goes on.

When Feeling Proud Feels Risky

Human life is meant to be full of continued challenges, growth and progression. This means that the opportunity to feel proud never really ends.

Yet, as we move out of childhood, many of us start to disconnect from the joy of accomplishment. This is easy to do when our self-talk changes from things resembling what we tell young children “That’s so awesome!” “You did it!” “Look at you!” “I’m so proud of you!” to things like “I was just doing what is expected of me.” “Anyone can do that.” “It wasn’t perfect.” or “Others do it better.”

Feeling proud is a surprisingly vulnerable feeling. Our internal system knows the pain that comes from being criticized and rejected and so it creates protective barriers that get in the way of feeling proud. The fear sounds like “the higher I climb, or the more effort I invest, the more it will hurt when I fall or fail.” When there has been painful past learning, our system warns us not to climb too high. Getting too happy or excited about our accomplishments feels as unsafe as standing on the ledge of a cliff. To prevent the pain of the fall, our mind creates rules about what we can and cannot feel proud about.

For example, consider a teenager who struggles with math prepares and studies and earns a B+ on his math test. This is the best score he’s ever received. He reacts with an initial surge of pride but quickly tells himself “This is nothing to be proud about.” He thinks of his friend who gets A’s every time and tells himself “I’m not smart like her. She didn’t even have to study.” As a result, the surge of pride is gone, and the teen might even feel ashamed of himself.

Proud and Motivation

There is a consequence for not allowing yourself to feel proud. The biggest consequence is a loss of motivation. Proud feelings are motivating. They are designed to light up the reward center of our brain which makes us want to do more things that make us proud.

However, in the example of the teen above, he did a good thing (worked hard to study for a math test) and instead of feeling good is feeling ashamed of himself. If this pattern continues, it will be difficult for him to keep up the good study habits because he will start to believe “It doesn’t matter what I do. I always feel bad inside.” Why go to the extra work to study if working hard to earn a good grade feels the same as not trying and getting a failing grade? 

Nurturing Proud Feelings

If you think that you or your child/teen is struggling with the inability to feel proud here are some ideas to help:

  1. Take some time to think about your inner dialogue when it comes to feeling proud. When you do something good, what do you tell yourself? When answering this question, many people discover they have developed “rules” for feeling proud that they did not even realize they had.

    For example, when someone outperforms you, a common reaction is to feel second best even if you beat your own personal record. You could frame this as a rule for feeling proud such as “I’m not allowed to feel proud about something I do well if there is someone who can do it better.” Some other common rules include “If the thing I did is easy for someone else, I shouldn’t be proud even if it was hard for me,” or “I can’t be proud because I didn’t do it perfectly” and “I’m not allowed to feel proud because I’ll get a big head and stop trying. I need to degrade myself in order to keep myself in check.”

  2. After identifying the rules your mind has created to interfere with proud feelings, take a look and decide what you want to do with the rules. Stating the rules explicitly like this makes them easier to scrutinize. You can ask yourself “Do these rules sound fair?” or “If I keep these rules am I ever going to be able to feel proud?” For most of us, there will always be someone who is better than us, there will always be things that are hard for us and easy for others, our efforts will always be imperfect and degrading ourselves actually makes it harder to stay motivated. This means our “rules” are not helpful in determining if we should feel proud.

  3. If you realize your rules are not working, it’s time to create some new rules. What would be a better setup for feeling proud? Maybe a new rule like “I can feel proud of myself any time I try my best.” Or “I can be proud of myself whenever I do something brave or take a risk.”  Remember, your mind comes up with thoughts and ideas all day long, but you get to choose which ones you believe and which ones you dismiss.

  4. After you have decided to adopt some new rules that allow you to feel proud, it’s time to begin to find ways to intentionally nurture this feeling. One way to do this is to take time to write down your successes on a daily or weekly basis. Include things on the list that are big and small but that fit within your new rules for feeling proud. To really capture the energizing spirit of feeling proud try ending each statement with an exclamation point. A typical weekly summary for me might include: Took the dog for a walk! Weeded the garden! Talked to someone at church! Went to the meeting I wanted to avoid! Cooked! Had a moment of connection with my teen! Took a breath instead of yelling! As you write, slow down and pay attention to how you are feeling. What is going through your mind? How is your body responding?

For me, this was a difficult practice to begin because I felt silly for writing down things that seemed so insignificant. But, over time, this practice has increased my motivation to do those “insignificant” things because I have learned to love the good feeling that comes when I do them.

Remember, feeling proud feels good! Clear the way to enjoy the satisfaction of feeling proud about all the good things you do in a day, and watch for an increase in energy, motivation and enjoyment in life.

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DISCLAIMER: The blog posts shared on www.childpsychologistutahcounty.com contain opinions of the specific mental health specialist who authored the post, and do not reflect the opinions of any organizations or affiliates.  While the therapists in this clinic are all trained professionals, all blog posts on this site are for informational purposes only, and are never a substitute for professional advice catered to your individual needs.  Neither Child & Adolescent Treatment Specialist, nor any of the contributing therapists are liable for any diagnosis, treatment plans, or decisions made based on the information presented on this website.  This blog post in no way constitutes a therapeutic relationship.

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Shrink Rap: Guilt

June 21, 2019

by Sarah Hunter, LCSW

This article is part of a series that will help readers understand the purpose of twelve basic human emotions: guilt/shame, pride, compassion, gratitude, disgust, joy, fear, curiosity, anger, love, sadness, and connection.

Understanding Guilt

Human beings come wired to experience the emotion of guilt. It is appropriate to feel guilty when we cause harm to someone or something. This uncomfortable feeling is the body’s way of saying “I did something bad.” Appropriate guilt motivates repair. It creates the thought “I need to make this right.” When felt fully, guilt is also a deterrent for causing future harm. The emotion is uncomfortable and just like pain prevents people from touching a hot stove more than once, guilt makes people want to stop doing the behavior that caused it.

Pause for a moment to imagine a world where humans feel no guilt over wrong doing. Most people would not want to live in such a world because they can see that a guilt-free world is a world where people harm each other and destroy things and show no remorse for their actions. Guilt is an essential emotion that is meant to be felt, acted on and then released. At its core, it is a functional emotion.

Guilt vs. Shame

Yet, when guilt is not understood or when it is misdirected, it can become problematic. Guilt that grows too big turns into shame. Dr. Brené Brown has spent decades researching shame and its consequences. A thorough discussion on shame is beyond the scope of this article. For further reading on the topic, try any of her published books. Her first book, I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn’t): Telling the Truth About Perfectionism, Inadequacy, and Power (Penguin/Gotham, 2007) is a good choice for women wanting to understand more about shame.  Her second book, The Gifts of Imperfection: Letting Go of Who We Think We Should Be and Embracing Who We Are (Hazelden, 2010) is a short read that gives a good overview on shame and how to combat it in order to live wholeheartedly.

For the sake of simplicity, shame can be defined as what happens when the belief switches from “I did something bad” (guilt) to “I am bad” (shame). Rather than motivate repair, the voice of shame motivates people to hide from others and isolate. Shame takes away hope of repair and improvement. It leads to feelings of being unworthy and unlovable. This makes it difficult to keep enough motivation to keep striving.

When shame rears its ugly head, the most helpful thing to do is to recognize it for what it is with a thought like “I’m in shame” ride the wave of emotions that sweep over you and then reach out to a trusted friend or relative and tell the story of what happened. This is an example using a skill called opposite action. Shame says “hide, stay in the dark, you’re not worthy of love.” Rather than giving in and obeying the voice of shame, doing the opposite action of reaching out to someone who cares about you will help you move through shame and back into connection.

Inappropriate Guilt

Another potential downfall when learning to allow guilt to become a healthy part of your emotional experience is the existence of inappropriate guilt. Inappropriate guilt is when a person feels bad about something that is not his fault. This is a common problem; children are especially prone to responsibility for things that were beyond their control. One example is a child feeling guilty for her parent’s divorce. The child may be under the false impression that if she would have not picked so many fights with her brother her parents would still be together.

Another example of inappropriate guilt is when an adult feels guilty for having cancer. Self-talk in this situation may sound like “This is my fault. I should have eaten more salads and exercised more.” Inappropriate guilt is not helpful because it leaves the person experiencing the guilt unable to correct the perceived wrong. For example, the child cannot make her parents get back together. The man with cancer cannot cure himself. In these instances, the appropriate emotional response is self-compassion which will be discussed in a future post.

Practicing Appropriate Guilt

There are many ways to help yourself or your child learn to let appropriate guilt do its job. Here are a few suggestions:

Identify the behavior. Get clear about what you did that was wrong. Journaling about the situation may help with this. Come from a place of seeing yourself as a good person who acted outside of your values rather than as a bad person (shame) who can never change. It can actually be empowering to admit “I was not my best self in that moment.”

Offer a sincere apology. A sincere apology can go a long way toward correcting a problem. Sincere apologies are not done in anger or resentment. They do not contain “buts.” For example, stay away from saying things like “I’m sorry I yelled at you, but you make me so mad I can’t control my temper.” Acknowledging that what you did was wrong regardless of the circumstance is important. Sometimes simply stating “I shouldn’t have done that” helps with this.

Practice empathy. If it’s difficult for you to be sincere in your apologies, try putting yourself in the other person’s shoes. Can you see how what you said affected her? Can you see why he was upset with what you did? Taking the time to see the situation from another person’s viewpoint will reduce defensiveness.

Take appropriate action. Rather than becoming stuck by ruminating on what you did wrong or what you wish would have happened, ask yourself “What can I do about it now?” Take whatever corrective action you can. Sometimes you do not know how to make it right. Sometimes asking the person you hurt “What can I do to make it right?” will give you a forward direction.  Do the things that are within your power to correct the problem.

Let it go. Once you have examined your behavior, identified what you did that was wrong, taken accountability for it and done what you could to repair, guilt has done its job and its time to let it go. Holding on to guilt for long periods of time in the spirit of wanting to punish yourself enough that you will never make another mistake will actually make it harder for you to feel appropriate guilt. You want your internal system to know that you can recover from mistakes and that making a mistake does not mean you have to punish yourself excessively for long periods of time. When your system can trust that guilt is a safe emotion to feel, you will increase your ability to acknowledge wrong doing.

Once you understand the purpose of guilt and you have had some successes in letting it do its job, it’s time to help your children do the same. Adults need to help children navigate guilt by focusing on the behavior that was wrong rather than focusing on defining a child’s character. Telling a child “It’s not ok to hit” is more helpful than saying “You are so mean.”

Remember, children will learn to handle guilt not just from what you say, but also (more importantly) by watching what you do when you feel guilty. Set a good example by admitting when you do something wrong, taking appropriate action to correct the problem, then letting the guilty feeling go.

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The blog posts shared on www.childpsychologistutahcounty.com contain opinions of the specific mental health specialist who authored the post, and do not reflect the opinions of any organizations or affiliates.  While the therapists in this clinic are all trained professionals, all blog posts on this site are for informational purposes only, and are never a substitute for professional advice catered to your individual needs.  Neither Child & Adolescent Treatment Specialist, nor any of the contributing therapists are liable for any diagnosis, treatment plans, or decisions made based on the information presented on this website.  This blog post in no way constitutes a therapeutic relationship.

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Shrink Rap: Improving Emotional Literacy

March 4, 2019

by Sarah Hunter, LCSW

A significant portion of the work of a therapist involves helping clients understand emotion. Human beings initially learn about emotion from experiences in their first family. Most of these lessons are not explicitly taught but were learned implicitly through observing parents or siblings navigating their emotional experiences.

People who grow up in families that model healthy ways of coping with emotion tend to develop healthy ways of coping as adults. People who grow up in families who demonstrated maladaptive ways of responding to emotion often struggle with emotion as adults. They find themselves responding to emotion in ways that make it difficult to function at an optimal level. These unhelpful responses tend to land on the more extreme ends of a spectrum where avoidance of emotion is on one end and becoming completely swept away by emotion is on the other end.

Because of this, many people struggle to find the sweet spot in the middle where one can be present with emotion, allowing herself to feel it fully without becoming fused to the emotion letting it take over and overwhelm the system.

When emotions are not understood, they can feel scary and complex. When people lack the skills to navigate the inner experience of emotion, they come to see certain feelings as bad. In fact, some people come to therapy so they can get rid of the “bad” feelings they are experiencing. They want the pain and distress to stop. They have tried everything they know how to do including using avoidance and numbing to escape upsetting thoughts and feelings. But, instead of helping, these strategies cause more problems.

People who numb find themselves unable to experience life as fulling and joyful. They often get stuck engaging in problematic behaviors such as over eating, spending hours scrolling online, shopping for things they don’t need and can’t afford, spending extra hours at the office, and the list goes on.

People who avoid find themselves structuring their lives around avoiding all things unpleasant. When this happens, their world quickly gets small and it can become difficult to do meaningful things because fear gets in the way.

Research has shown that these ways of dealing with emotion are problematic because avoidance behaviors maintain and enhance anxiety and numbing can never be selective. When you choose to numb difficult emotions you also chose to numb the emotions that are the most fulfilling such as love and joy.

If you are one who struggles with experiencing emotion, or you have a child who struggles, consider learning all you can about emotions. Here are a few suggestions you can try for yourself or practice with a child who is struggling.

  1. Practice naming feelings. If naming feelings is hard, try using a list of emotions (I like emotion wheels which can be found online) and choose what fits. Remember, it is common to feel more that one feeling at a time so continue to look for words to describe what you’re feeling until it feels like you’ve fully captured the emotional experience.
  2. Practice noticing the felt body sensation of different emotions. After you name a feeling you are experiencing, ask yourself “Where am I feeling this in my body?” See if you can locate areas of the body where the emotion is most intense. See if you can find words to describe the sensation. Words like light, heavy, hot, cold, knots, butterflies, tight, loose, tingling, open, caged are some of the ways people describe sensations.
  3. Practice noticing thoughts that are connected with emotion. Ask yourself “What is going through my head right now?” You may find one thought that is on repeat running through your head over and over again. You may find thoughts racing through you mind so quickly that it is hard to slow them down enough to notice them. You may notice yourself having thoughts about your thoughts. Don’t worry about doing anything with the thoughts, simply notice that they are there.
  4. To tie it all together, practice approaching experiences with a curious observer attitude. Use phrases like “I’m feeling ________.” “I’m noticing a sensation in my ________that feels _______.” “I’m having the thought that ________.”

If you practice navigating emotions in this way, you will notice that emotions become less frightening, mysterious and overwhelming. This is an important step forward in improving your emotional literacy which will help you create a more rich and meaningful life.

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Shrink Rap: Understanding Meltdowns

August 3, 2018

by Sarah Hunter, LCSW

Introduction

All parents and caregivers have had the frustrating experience of witnessing a childhood meltdown. When meltdowns happen, many parents and caregivers experience a feeling of helplessness and they are left wondering if what they are doing is helping or making things worse. Having a basic understanding of how meltdowns work in a child’s developing brain can help parents increase feelings of competency and improve their ability to help their child learn to regulate emotion.

Left Brain, Right Brain

Most people are familiar with the terms left-brain and right-brain. They have some understanding of the right brain as being the emotional, creative part of the brain and the left brain as being the logical, reasoning part.

One of the goals of parenting is to help children learn to use both sides of their brain in daily life. Children need to be able to use information from their sensing, feeling, creative brain centers. Children also need to be able to use logic, reasoning and story-telling to make sense of their world. Both right and left-brain functions are needed for optimal functioning.

Brain integration does not stop with left and right. As their brains develop, children also need opportunities to help their brain integrate from top to bottom. To explain this concept to parents, in their book called The Whole-Brain Child, neuropsychiatrist Daniel Siegel and parenting expert Tina Payne Bryson introduce the terms “upstairs” and “downstairs” brain.

Upstairs Brain, Downstairs Brain

The upstairs part of the brain (cerebral cortex) is undeveloped at birth and is under construction for the first twenty plus years of life. It is responsible for thinking, planning and imagining. It can predict consequences and it allows humans to guide behaviors based on desired future outcomes.

The downstairs part of the brain (brain stem and limbic region) is more primitive and almost fully developed from birth. The downstairs brain controls basic functions like breathing and blinking. It is responsible for our fight or flight response. It is also the place where strong emotions like anger originate.

So how does this information help parents navigate melt downs?

First, parents can learn to tell the difference between upstairs and downstairs meltdowns.

Upstairs meltdowns

An upstairs meltdown is what most people think of when they think of a childhood temper tantrum. The upstairs melt down is a strategic attempt for the brain to get something it wants.

Picture a young child at the grocery store who sees a fun looking toy or a favorite treat. They may ask for the toy or grab for the treat and their parent or caregiver tells them no. Their brain does not like this answer and so they start to use behaviors to get what they want.

At first, the behaviors may look like polite asking, begging or pleading. If the answer remains no, it may turn to yelling, crying, thrashing about or any number of intense behaviors designed to change their parent or caregiver’s mind. One of the tell-tale signs of an upstairs meltdown is that the parent or caregiver has the sense that if they give the child exactly what she wants the meltdown will stop because the objective has been achieved.

The main thing parent and caregivers need to remember when dealing with upstairs meltdowns is to not reward the behavior. In the words of Siegel and Bryson “never negotiate with a terrorist.” If a child escalates behaviors and parents or caregivers respond by giving them what they want, they are teaching the child that throwing a tantrum is an effective way to get their needs met. This prevents children from learning to use appropriate behaviors (for example polite requests) to get what they want. It also prevents them from learning how to handle disappointment.

Instead, a parent can quickly and firmly set boundaries and enforce the limits they are setting. An example of this would be stating “I know you want that candy bar but this is not the way to get what you want. If you don’t stop now, our trip to the store is over.” After a boundary is set, parents and caregivers need to make sure they follow through with what they have said will happen. Over time, this consistency will teach the child that tantrums are not an effective way to get their wants and needs met.

Downstairs Meltdown

A downstairs meltdown is different from an upstairs meltdown. When a downstairs meltdown occurs, the upstairs part of the brain that is responsible for thinking, reasoning and regulating behavior is offline. The child feels out of control and no matter what rewards the parent or caregiver offers or what consequences the parent or caregiver threatens, the meltdown continues.

Rather than viewing this as an act of defiance, parents and caregivers can think of this as a child’s version of a panic attack. The child is overwhelmed by emotion and is unable to calm herself down. In fact, many children with anxiety or sensory processing issues experience frequent, intense downstairs meltdowns. These are often mistaken for behavioral problems or opposition when in fact they are anxiety driven.

When a child is experiencing a downstairs meltdown, the best thing a parent or caregiver can do is to regulate themselves, connect with their child and help him calm down.

Parent Regulation

Sometimes melt downs are so intense and even scary for parents or caregivers to witness, they become dysregulated themselves. This can be highly distressing to a child who is already feeling out of control. In order to regulate themselves, parents can tell themselves things like “It will be over soon.” “I can handle this.”

Sometimes just knowing what is going on and recognizing that this type of meltdown is a normal part of childhood and is an opportunity to help a child’s brain development is enough to help parents and caregivers regulate themselves enough to be helpful to their child.

However, if none of these strategies are working, it is usually better for a parent or caregiver to put themselves in “time out” and give themselves time to regulate before interacting with their child.

Child Regulation

Once regulated, a parent or caregiver can connect with the emotion the child is expressing and help her calm down. Each child is unique, and parents and caregivers can experiment with what works best for their child.

Generally speaking, giving a name to the emotion the child is feeling, speaking in a calm, nurturing voice and using soothing touch will be most effective. For example, (using a soothing voice, and/or loving touch) “You look very angry now. I’m right here with you. We can talk about this as soon as you are ready.”

At this point, trying to give consequences will not be effective because the child does not have access to the part of his brain that can use that information. Once the child is regulated enough that he is receptive to taking in information, it is appropriate to talk about behavior expectations. For example, “Did you not like it when I put mustard on your sandwich? I understand you didn’t like that, but it’s not ok to hit when you’re mad. Use your words and tell me ‘I don’t like mustard.’”

Depending on how intense the melt downs are, this type of conversation may need to happen hours after the melt down or even the next day.

Remember it is not only toddlers that have downstairs meltdowns—older children, teenagers and even adults can lose access to the thinking part of the brain when they are overwhelmed with intense emotion.

If your child’s meltdowns become dangerous, seem excessive or are more intense than others his or her age, you may consider bringing them to be evaluated by a therapist or other medical provider.

Information for this article was taken from: The Whole-Brain Child by Daniel J. Siege and Tina Payne Bryson, 2011, New York.

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Shrink Rap: Helping Kids and Teenagers with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD)

May 21, 2018

“Discomfort is a wise teacher” —Caroline Myss

“And sometimes you meet yourself back where you started, but stronger” —Yrsa Daley-Ward

I just got back from Oconomowoc Wisconsin where I was able to attend the International Obsessive Compulsive Disorder Foundation (IOCDF) Pediatric Behavior Therapy Training Institute (BTTI). The IOCDF’s Pediatric BTTI is an intensive three-day training course providing in-depth education on the diagnosis and treatment of OCD in children and adolescents. I was able to learn the best evidenced based practices from leaders in the field, such as Eric Storch PHD, Aureen Pinto Wagner PHD, Stephani Eken MD, FAAP, and Martin Franklin PHD. and bring back the information to all our therapists here at the Child and Adolescent Treatment Specialists (CHATS).

Some of the topics included in the training were: 1. Cognitive Behavioral Treatment of Pediatric OCD, 2.Cultivating Readiness: Dismantling reluctance in Pediatric OCD, 3. Psychopharmacology in OCD, 4. Trichotillomania and Tourette Syndrome, 5. Pediatric Body Dysmorphic Disorder, 6. Comorbidity in Pediatric OCD.

I was able to bring the most recent research and training regarding pediatric anxiety and OCD back to all our therapists here at the Child and Adolescent Treatment Specialists (CHATS).We are strongly committed to providing good and effective treatment to children and adolescents who come to our clinic.

One in 200 children in the United States suffer from OCD. That is nearly half a million children. However, many children with OCD go undiagnosed and/or receive ineffective treatment. It is thought that 80 percent of adults with OCD actually began having it in childhood.

Please see the following helpful videos:

International OCD Foundation-What is OCD?
Anxiety and OCD Quick Guide 14: What’s Normal, What’s OCD?
What’s normal, what’s OCD?
Anxiety and OCD Quick Guide 16: What makes OCD Worse?

Not all children and/or adolescents with OCD will need medication. If medication is recommended it will usually be an SSRI that is prescribed through a medical doctor. For information on how medications are used in pediatric OCD please see the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry links (AACAP).

Obsessive Compulsive Disorder Resource Center
Psychiatric Medication For Children And Adolescents Part I – How Medications Are Used
Psychiatric Medication For Children And Adolescents: Part II – Types Of Medications

According to Eric Storch PHD, “If you don’t do anything it (OCD) won’t get better”.

Dr. Storch espouses that Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) including exposure based treatments are necessary to address symptoms of OCD. Treatment consists of Psycho-education, Exposure Response Prevention (ERP) (going toward fears in a slow step-wise fashion), Developmentally appropriate Cognitive Therapy, Family Therapy, Contingency Management (rewards, etc.), and Relapse prevention.

Eric Storch, PHD, discussed that 53 % of kids with OCD also have difficulties with “rage attacks” when parents tried to set limits around OCD triggers. He suggested that the rage is important to address in the treatment of OCD. Family involvement is key in this effort. OCD effects the family and is a family issue.

A treatment professional can help establish what Dr. Storch calls the “parents’ as therapists’ model”. This model involves parents in the therapy sessions (where appropriate) and helps parents and children learn skills to address the OCD. Parents learn about anxiety and OCD, learn how to address accommodation that may be intensifying OCD, and how to help their children practice skills between treatment sessions. The therapist takes the lead role and then eventually transfers that role to the parent(s).

As part of the pediatric OCD training, Dr. Storch told a story about his own young daughter. One day she asked her dad why he was gone so much. To this he replied that he was both helping other professionals learn how to help kids with worries and OCD and also helping children with anxiety and OCD. His daughter replied, “Don’t you just face your fears and do it over and over and over again.” Storch stated, his young daughter summarized his whole career in this one statement. OCD treatment and recovery focuses on a “general approach to life in which you face your fears no matter what”. Skills are taught and utilized in treatment to help children and adolescents be able to utilize this general approach.

Avoidance tends to be at the core of many difficulties with anxiety. Avoidance increases anxiety. With anxiety we see children and adolescents avoiding the things they are fearful of. These may include germs, new foods, movies or TV, class and school, etc. Exposure to fears and/or disgust, rather than avoidance, and response prevention can be done with creativity, engagement and fun by a therapist trained in CBT (cognitive behavior therapy) and ERP (exposure response prevention).  As a learning vehicle, exposure and response prevention (preventing the typically feared response) generally teaches that:

(1). Feared thing doesn’t happen. Or

(2). It does happen but it is not so bad.  And

(3). I can cope if given the chance. And

(4). Practice is helpful.

There are many other skills children/adolescents and parents learn over the course of cognitive behavioral treatment and treatment for anxiety and OCD. Dr. Storch emphasized that treatment can change brain functioning over time, especially in children and teens. Pediatric OCD is a treatable condition in which children and families can receive support and treatment.

Over my 25 year career I have had the privilege of treating many individuals with anxiety and OCD. In addition to being so grateful to learn about evidenced based practices for anxiety and OCD, I am also grateful for what I have learned from each person who bravely came into therapy and worked together with me towards healthy change.

For more information on pediatric OCD and/or OCD please see IOCDF.org.

Also see:

Understanding OCD: A guide for parents and professionals, Edited by Adam B. Lewin and Eric A. Storch

Up and Down the Worry Hill: A children’s book about Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder and its Treatment by Aureen Pinto Wagner, PHD

What to do when your Child has Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder: Strategies and Solutions by Aureen Pinto Wagner, PHD

(The information in this blog should not be used as a replacement for guidance, consultation, assessment or treatment by a qualified healthcare professional).

 

 

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Shrink-Rap: OCD in Children and Teenagers

October 16, 2017

I feel fortunate to have been able to recently attend the 24th annual International OCD Foundation conference in San Francisco, California. This conference gives treating professionals (such as psychologists) as well as children, teens and adults who struggle with OCD, the most up-to date information on effective and evidenced-based treatments for OCD and other anxiety disorders.

Pediatric obsessive compulsive disorder is a fairly common neuropsychiatric condition that can cause significant problems for children and teens, as well as their parents and families in many areas of their life. According to an OCD-fact sheet included in this article, 1 in 200 children have obsessive compulsive disorder. As noted on this sheet, this would look like 4-5 children in an average elementary school and 20 teenagers in a large high-school. Recent research, included in an article by *Marien, Storch, Geffken and Murphy (2013), indicates a 1.3-4% prevalence rate of OCD among children and adolescents.

There are many misconceptions about obsessive-compulsive disorder. Some people state “I am so OCD”, or “you are so OCD” meaning that the individual is overly organized and/or somewhat rigid. These statements miss the truth and reality of what OCD is and how it effects those who really suffer from it.

OCD is usually considered an anxiety disorder with two components: obsessions and compulsions.

Obsessions are unwanted, intrusive and repetitive thought, images or impulses that result in intense anxiety, and/or distress.

Compulsions are actions that are meant to decrease the above noted anxiety. They are generally repeated behaviors and/or mental actions.

For example a child or adolescent may have repetitive and intrusive thoughts about germs…germs causing death to himself/herself and/or his/her loved ones. This may lead to excessive washing to rid the self of germs, and or avoidance of places and items which the child/teen may feel are more likely to be contaminated with germs. Marni L. Jacobs (**Chapter 4-Recognizing Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, in Understanding OCD a guide for parents and professionals, Lewin and Storch 2017) identifies several themes that are present in pediatric OCD. These include: Aggressive obsessions, Checking behaviors, Contamination concerns, Counting symptoms, “Just right” obsessions and need for symmetry or exactness, Ordering/organizing/arranging symptoms, Religious obsessions/scrupulosity, Repeating rituals, Sexual obsessions, Somatic obsessions and Magical thinking/superstitious fears. Though there can be variations in the intensity of the thoughts and obsessions, the thoughts and obsessions tend to interfere with functioning in home, social and school environments. Avoidance of anxiety is typically also involved in the maintenance of OCD symptoms.

Parents and family members of those with OCD may feel confused and at a loss of how to help their child/teen with OCD. In an effort to help their child or teen they may become involved in the obsessions and/or compulsions of their child/adolescent. The conference I attended discussed the hopefulness of treatment for those who suffer. **Storch and Lewin (2017) state, “Two types of effective treatment have been established. These include a form of psychotherapy called cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) with exposure and response prevention (ERP) as well as a group of medicines called serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SRI’s).” (**Understanding OCD: A guide for parents and professionals, Lewin and Storch, 2017). Lewin and Storch’s book is a great resource for parents who have questions about treatment(s) they may be considering for their child or teen.

CBT/ERP is a specific treatment that includes helping the child or teen slowly go toward their anxiety in a hierarchical fashion and with skills and support. It includes practice in not engaging in their compulsive behavior(s). Children and teenagers are also taught how to accept their anxiety provoking thoughts, label and/or externalize them, talk back to them, and not act on them in the same way. Generally the parent(s) are included in this treatment. They are taught how to best help, which may be different than how they previously responded, in order for their child/teen to improve and better manage their anxiety and symptoms. For example, a trained therapist can help a parent(s) who has become a part of a ritual, slowly disengage from this role. Also, because it is sometimes difficult for a child/teen to engage in CBT/ERP a psychologist/therapist may at times help the parents develop a behavioral reward system for home-based exposure practice. A treatment provider who is trained in CBT and ERP can be helpful to the child/teen and the family. There are also treatment programs (inpatient and intensive outpatient) that utilize CBT/ERP.

On a separate note, as part of the IOCD conference I was able to watch the premier of an amazing movie called “Unstuck: An OCD Movie”. It followed the lives and treatment of brave young people with various types of OCD. It offered a window into the struggles, the treatment and the hope in recovery for children and teens with OCD. The film demonstrated the individuality as well as some common bonds of those with this struggle. Additionally, I loved that the youth were able to address the myths of how people in the general population see OCD and talk instead of what OCD really looks like and feels like. It also demonstrated how CBT/ERP helped with positive functioning.

For your information I have included the (1)***OCD Fact Sheet that can be found on the IOCD website, (2) Two trailers for “Unstuck: An OCD Movie”, and (3)*** A link for the IOCD website, iocdf.org, for more information about Obsessive Compulsive Disorder.

*Intensive Family-Based Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy for Pediatric Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder: Applications for Treatment of Medication Partial-or Nonresponders. Marien, Storch, Geffken and Murphy

Click here to view the book “Understanding OCD A Guide For Parents and Professionals” (Edited by Adam B. Lewin and Eric A. Storch).

Click here to visit the iocdf.org website

Click here to download the “OCD in Children and Teenagers” Fact Sheet

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Shrink-Rap: Value-Setting for the New Year

December 31, 2016


The new year is often a time where we reflect on the past and take time to set goals for the future. I grew up setting goals at the new year and still do, every year. There’s a sense of accomplishment and excitement that comes with predicting the successes and growth that one will obtain in the upcoming year. In this sense, goals are defined as the end-result of a person’s endeavor. However, at the beginning of this new year, I have found myself contemplating the importance of values. Harris describes values as “your hearts deepest desires for how you want to behave as a human being.” Values are continuous and ever-present, while goals are accomplished and final. When I think of the difference between values and goals, I often imagine a journey to a destination, such as a hike. The end view on the peak is the goal -it’s a destination or end-result. I then think of values as the direction I am headed, or the trail that I am on. You can be heading East daily. East is not a destination but it is a metric that we use to consistently modify our path. Some examples of values are compassion, good work ethic, social relations, spirituality, physical health, learning and more. Goals might then be obtaining a service position, getting a promotion, making a new friend, finishing a spiritual book, competing in a triathlon, completing a class, etc.

Why do we set goals? Because we want that feeling of self-improvement, accomplishment and happiness. However, I’m sure none of us would argue that the real leg-work in accomplishing goals comes when we are day-in and day-out making consistent efforts towards said goals. It turns out, happiness and fulfillment comes from that same leg-work that most of us find not so exciting about the upcoming year. In other words, it is common for us, as humans, to want the prize without the effort; while all the while, it is the effort that actually provides those feelings of self-improvement, accomplishment and happiness (the feelings that we mistakenly think come from the end-result of attaining our goals).

There is a strong body of literature that supports this values approach. Research conducted by Whippman (2016) concluded that value-based living is closer to producing happiness as a by-product than “pursuing happiness” as a goal. In fact, she stated that those who pursue happiness as a goal are often less happy than those who focus on strengthening relationships day-to-day, working a consistent job and other “value-based” activities. “Value-based” is another term for behaviors that we perform daily that align with our underlying values (Hayes et. al.). In the case where you value strong relationships, the “value-based” behavior would look like daily activities that align with the value, such as checking in with a friend or family member to see how they are doing, making time to spend with a relative, sitting next to a family member to read, etc.

Becoming clear on what our values are is always a great idea. It provides a gentle reminder of what path or direction it is we want to go. It reminds us, so that in moments of decision making (example: what to do with free time, what to do when faced with a dilemma, etc.) we can make decisions that ultimately provide more long-term fulfillment and happiness. It is also the key to accomplishing goals, but more importantly it is the key to being content and fulfilled while doing so. At the beginning of this new year, I figure it’s as good a time as any to remind myself of my values.

How do you find, set and live by values? There a couple of guidelines that I’ve found useful listed below.

  • Explore values. There are many values to choose from and find within yourself. Remember, “values are your hearts deepest desires for how you want to behave as a human being (Harris)” Don’t feel limited or drawn to values that seem more “correct” or valued by others (see the “Defining Your Values” attachment, where it says “A Quick Look at Your Values –page 1”). When you’ve explored adequately, choose the 4-6 values you feel most aligned with or would like to incorporate into your life. Choosing this many does not limit your values, but provides a select few to focus on.
  • Identify “value-based” behaviors. Once you’ve chosen 4-6 values, think about what behaviors would align with those values. For example, if one of your values is creativity, what are some ways you know to engage in creativity? This might be writing, art, playing instruments, taking a walk and finding images or meaning in your surroundings, etc.
  • Openly/non-judgmentally think of things that get in the way of the behaviors just identified. This step, if done with the purpose of understanding yourself better, can help problem solve for future instances where you might not feel motivated and important values seem to take the “back seat” to less important values (example: creativity taking the “back seat” to fitness).

Making goals and not achieving them or acting in ways that we regret is never enjoyable. Through research, professional experience with clients and personal experience, I have learned that exploring and introducing a more value-based life is best done with honesty towards ourselves and a nonjudgmental exploration of what it is that we each truly value (Neff & Dahm). Readdressing and revisiting our values is not just a great idea at the New Year, but whenever we would like to improve and realign our life with what we truly want.

This article was written by Tess Collett, CSW and Ph.D. in Training. Tess has been working at CHATS since June 2016.

Sources:

Fletcher, L., & Hayes, S. C. (2005). Relational Frame Theory, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, and a functional analytic definition of mindfulness. Journal of Rational Emotive and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy

Harris, R. (2010). The confidence gap: A guide to overcoming fear and self-doubt. Penguin Group Australia. Boston, Massachusetts.

Hayes, S. C., Luoma, J. B., Bond, F. W., Masuda, A. & Lillis, J. (2005). Acceptance and commitment therapy: Model, process and outcomes. Behavior Research and Therapy 44, p 1-24.

Layous, K., Lyubomirsky, S. (in press). University of California, The How, Why, What, When, and Who of Happiness: Mechanisms Underlying the Success of Positive Activity Interventions

Neff, K. D., & Dahm, K. A. (2012) Self-Compassion: What it is, what it does, and how it relates to mindfulness. University of Texas at Austin, appear in in M. Robinson, B. Meier & B. Ostafin (Eds.) Mindfulness and Self-Regulation. New York: Springer

Suttie, J. (2016) Is the search for happiness making us anxious? Retrieved from http://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/is_the_search_for_happiness_making_us_anxious

Whippman, R. (2016) America the Anxious: How Our Pursuit of Happiness is Creating a Nation of Nervous Wrecks. St. Martin’s Press New York

 

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Shrink-Rap: The Benefits of Giving

November 29, 2016

Although I’m not much of a winter girl, (even though I’m from Utah!) I do love the Holidays. I’m guessing the things I love about the Holidays are similar to what you may love about this time of year: lights on the houses, wreaths on the doors, trees glowing from the windows, scents of cinnamon, pine, and peppermint, Holiday tunes on the radio and in the stores, time with loved ones, watching the stillness of the first snow fall, and of course, the delicious food. Something else I enjoy are the many opportunities to give to others-family, friends, neighbors, coworkers, and strangers.

I think one of the reasons we enjoy giving to others is because it feels good. More specifically we tend to feel positive, happy, and uplifted when we give to others. Giving to and serving others has been identified by research as being a happiness habit that people can engage in to cultivate more lasting happiness and satisfaction. In one study, significant increases in happiness were reported for research participants who performed five acts of kindness one day a week for six weeks (Lyubomirksy et. al., 2005). In another study, individuals who were given a $10 gift card, but chose to use it in a way where they gave it to another person, but also spent time with the receiver felt the happiest compared to other individuals who either gave it away or used it on themselves while spending time with someone else (Dunn et. al., 2011).

Research completed by Dunn and Norton (2013) found that acts of giving are most effective or have the largest impact on our happiness when the following criteria are met: 1) the giving is a choice 2) you connect with the person(s) you’re helping 3) you see and/or learn about the impact your giving will have. Giving is a choice means that you were not pressured nor did you feel obligated to give. Creating a connection means you spent some time with the recipient(s) of the gift (e.g. giving your time to help someone move, helping your neighbor shovel their driveway, tutored children learning to read). Seeing the impact means you took some time to find out what your gift will go toward (e.g. read about how your online donation will be used, asked what the money you were donating would go toward).

There are many ways to give to others. And in case you need some help getting started, below are some ideas keeping the three criteria outlined above in mind:

1) Volunteer to teach your talents to others (e.g. sewing, crocheting, woodwork, ceramics, etc.).

2) Donate food to a food bank/homeless shelter and help serve a meal to the patrons.

3) Pay it forward in the drive-thru line.

4) Donate money to your child’s school. Ask what the money will be used for.

5) Small acts of kindness are great too! Hold the door for someone. Give up your seat on the bus/train/while waiting to be seated at a restaurant. Help a friend with a chore. Make breakfast for your partner.

Happy Holidays from all of us at CHATS!!

This article was written by Tessa Salisbury, Ph.D. Dr. Tessa has been working at CHATS since December 2015. She feels blessed and grateful to be there.

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Shrink-Rap: Gratitude

November 16, 2016

gratitudeNovember tends to be a chilly month here in Utah. The warmer Fall days seem to be behind us. It becomes harder to get away with leaving the house without some kind of warmer wear in tow. Most of the leaves have fallen off their branches leaving the trees shivering in the cool air. Snow isn’t far off at this point. It can usually be seen staring down at us from the tops of the mountains that surround us. While we can’t do much to control or change the cold, getting colder weather, we can make this month warmer by working to cultivate and express gratitude.

Gratitude is a well researched construct and findings indicate that gratitude tends to have a positive impact on us psychologically as well as physically. On the physical health side of things research findings have shown that cultivating gratitude can reduce stress hormones such as cortisol by over 20% (McCraty et. al). More findings note that recalling feelings of appreciation and listing what one is grateful for decreases blood pressure and lowers heart rate variability (McCraty et. al; Shipon et. al). Additional research has found a relationship between gratitude and improved sleep as well as gratitude and more time spent exercising each week (Digdon et. al.; Emmons et. al).

Psychologically, gratitude has been linked to a plethora of positive research findings. More specifically, gratitude has been found to be related to higher self-esteem, lower risks for major depression, improved resiliency, and an increased likelihood of overcoming trauma (Wood et. al.; Hill et. al.). Furthermore, when we experience gratitude it is very difficult to also experience negative emotions such as envy, anger, resentment, and regret at the same time (McCullough et. al.). Therefore, we tend to experience a decrease in these negative emotions. Finally, gratitude has also been found to be related to lower aggression and higher levels of empathy (Dewall et. al).

There are many many ways to experience and express more gratitude, not just this month, but all year long. Below are just a few of the ways. I hope you can find one that you’d be willing to try.

  1. Keep a gratitude journal. Write about the things you are grateful for. They are likely to be different every day. Don’t worry so much about length. Whether it’s two minutes or 20, as we already discussed above, expressing gratitude is good for you.
  2. Write a thank you note. Whether you send it or not, the act of writing a thank you note is likely to create positive emotions that last. Think of people who have done something kind for you, big or small, and take a minute to express thanks. As a side note, taking a minute to verbally express genuine thanks in person is also a great way to experience gratitude.
  3. Dinner table gratitude. Bring your family in on the action! With your family gathered around the dinner (or breakfast or lunch) table take turns to verbally express what you are grateful for. Do this few times a week. Notice the variability in the responses. Warm, happy feelings for all!
  4. 30 Days of Gratitude. Click on this link for the 30 days of gratitude topic list: http://textmyjournal.com/gratitude-journal-prompts/ With a different prompt each day, 30 Days of Gratitude makes it easy to experience more gratitude in your life.

 

Sources:

Dewall, Lambert, Pond, Kashdan, & Fincham. A grateful heart is a nonviolent heart: Cross-sectional, experience sampling, longitudinal, and experimental evidene. Social Psychological and Personality Science (2012): 232-40.

Digdon & Koble. Effects of constructive worry, imagery distraction, and gratitude interventions on sleep quality: A pilot trial. Applied Psychology: Health and Well-Being: 193-206.

Emmons & McCullough. Counting blessings versus burdens: An experimental investigation of gratitude and subjective well-being in daily life. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology: 377-89.

Hill, Allemand, & Roberts. Examining the pathways between gratitude and self-rated physical health across adulthood. Personality and Individual Differences: 92-96.

Lyubomirsky. The how of happiness: A scientific approach to getting the life you want. (2008): 89-101.

McCraty, Barrios-Choplin, Rozman, Atkinson, & Watkins. The impact of a new emotional self-management program on stress, emotions, heart rate variability, DHEA and cortisol. Integrative Physiological and Behavioral Science: 151-70.

McCraty. The effects of emtions on short-term power spectrum analysis of heart rate variability. The Amerian Journal of Cardiology: 1089-093.

McCullough, Emmons, and Tsang. The grateful disposition: A conceptual and empirical topography. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology: 112-27.

Shipon. Gratitude: Effect on perspectives and blood pressure of inner-city African-American hypertensive patients. Dissertation Abstracts International: Section B: The Sciences and Engineering 68 (2007).

Wood, Froh, & Geraghty. Gratitude and well-being: A review and theoretical integration. Clinical Psycohology Review: 890-905.

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Shrink Rap: Increasing Happiness Over the Summer Through Random Acts of Kindness

May 22, 2015

Small changes can have big effects.  When I was in graduate school we learned that it is through tiny changes that people are able to make bigger and more positive shifts in their lives.  

Research has shown that individuals who engage in even small acts of kindness toward others increase their own happiness.  In a study by Sonja Lyubomirsky that is cited in Sean Achor’s work, small acts of kindness such as sending a positive email increase the givers happiness significantly.  Additionally,  Sean Achor’s work purports that kindness towards others and subsequent happiness has a ripple effect. When we are kind to others, those others are kind to others and so on and so on.  We have all heard those news stories of long strings of people in fast food windows who pay for the cars behind them because others have paid for them.  I still remember working as a young sales clerk at a small store when I was very pregnant with my first child at a time when money was in short supply.  A stranger left 50 dollars  at the front desk in an envelope with my name on it with a note  that it was to help out with the new baby.  I felt such gratitude and love and felt a great desire to return the favor when possible. On our office Pinterest page I included a board labeled “Kindness”.  Feel free to visit this board for hundreds of ideas on small, doable acts of kindness. I believe kindness is an important value for both the giver and the receiver and has the potential to influence the world for good.  I love the quote, “Be the change you wish to see in the world.”  

The following video illustrates the importance of kindness as well as it’s ripple effect.  The first part discusses the importance of kindness.  Don’t miss the second half of the video where there is a lovely representation of kindness.  The subtitle on this video states, “One act of kindness can have unknown and profound consequences.”

After watching the video and considering all the kids and teenagers who will be out of school for the summer, as well as adults who may be on vacation, I thought what would be better than increasing our children and our own happiness levels by encouraging and participating in small random acts of kindness.  Here is a quick list of ideas to get you started: 

  1. Every time you open up any form of social media send a positive message/text/tweet/picture/etc. to praise or thank someone you may not routinely message.  
  2. Write a positive note to anyone who may frequently provide service for you (garbage collector, teacher, babysitter, religious advisor, waitress, food service worker, etc.)
  3. Put change/money in a candy/gum/candy/snack machine at a grocery store or place of work. 
  4. Put a positive note or dollar bill in a beloved book at the library.  
  5. Rake, weed, do yard work for an elderly neighbor. 
  6. Put change in parking meters. 
  7. Make lunches for a homeless facility (check with the facility first to find out how they would like you to do this). 
  8. Get a group together  to sing or perform at a retirement facility (call the facility first to check needs and times).
  9. go to family reunions and really communicate and get to know your cousins, aunts, uncles, grandparents and other relatives. 
  10. Take chilled bottled water and/or popsicles to a parade and give them out to thirsty or over-heated people for free (with parental permission of course).  
  11. Call someone you haven’t contacted recently.  
  12. Hold doors open for people 
  13. Let someone go ahead of you in line. 
  14. Tell your parents thank-you for something you don’t usually thank them for. 
  15. Donate clothing or toys to a thrift store. 
  16. Give a compliment
  17. Return a shopping cart for someone. 
  18. Carry around snacks, drinks in the car to give to homeless people. 
  19. Draw a picture and send it to someone. 
  20. Smile!

“When we practice loving kindness and compassion we are the first ones to profit.”Rumi

Let’s make this summer the summer of kindness and increased happiness!

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